Being serious about your recovery? Unfortunately, that means limiting contact with the people you previously drank or used with, which probably eliminates a good chunk of your social circle!
Most people drink or use with pretty good people. However, those friendships tend to revolve around the experience of using and don’t generally deepen to the “same” as sober friendships.
Dependable/Good Friends are invaluable during recovery
If you have sober friends to support you as you progress then, bless you and them! You will need to nurture those friendships as to make up for your behaviors in the past. Getting sober will mean cutting off most, or all of your old friends as making new friends will be the priority.
A good friend will guide you and keep you walking down the sober path. You don’t get sober to survive, you get sober to thrive, and a person can’t thrive without good friends to share your ups and downs with.
Being Involved With a Support Group
Research shows that people who stay involved with community support groups (AA or NA) stay abstinent longer. These groups are great places to meet people who share similar experiences, goals (such as staying sober), and needs (making new sober friends).
Keep in mind, these groups vary, so it’s a good idea to try out several. Be patient, you will eventually find a group that you feel “right” in – and when you do, go often, stay late. You’ll most certainly make new friends.
Recovery Isn’t a Race
Recovery isn’t a race or a destination that one must reach or die trying. Recovery is a new way at life, the life that you chose for yourself. You’ve given yourself a marvelous gift. And this gift will continue to bring countless blessings /benefits for as long as you live.
As with all good things, we expect there to be pain and uncertainly at times. Followed by joy, serenity, new friends and new opportunities.
Most importantly, know there is no right or wrong way to approach your recovery, only what works for you. And know that one method or strategy for dealing with certain issues or problems which worked for you in the past may no longer be effective for you now.
Lastly, as you’re assimilating yourself back into everyday life, know that your commitment to sobriety cannot falter for one moment. Your continued focus on your sobriety is not the preferred topic of every conversation you may have with old friends and family.Establishing new sober friends and relationships will encourage you to speak freely about your current challenges and the ones just around the corner, along with providing you a sounding board to keep you on track.